​The High Performance Friendship Litmus Test


What do we mean by high performance friendship? Perhaps the best answer is to provide the litmus tests we apply. To us a friendship is high performance if both friends:

  • are pleased with the opportunity to provide a selfless act on behalf of the other
  • feel comfortable sharing inner-most thoughts, yet each respect the other’s private thoughts
  • trust the other with that which they hold dear
  • support the other when they fail or err and forgiveness is readily granted
  • appreciate and accept heartfelt constructive criticism
  • truly celebrate the other’s success without jealousy or envy
  • sustain the relationship in spite of distance or time
  • do not make or tolerate disparaging remarks about the other especially behind their backs


​None of us achieve perfection in this earthly life but because Jesus is the model for high performance friendships we should be willing to evaluate our commitment to friendship, be honest to admit where we fall short of His example and ask for His power and guidance in helping us make the mid-course corrections we need to make.​